That’s the question I posed to myself recently after a conversation with a few of my closest girlfriends. It seems as if society, or maybe it’s just LA, is suffering from a severe shortage of MEN. And maybe OUR definition of a MAN differs from anothers but the consensus is that there are tons of boys but not many MEN.

This whole conversation spawned from an incident I had this past weekend. I had, what i thought was, a good guy friend come into town. He asked me to be his date to a couple of posh events he had to attend for work, and being that I’m pretty much the only woman he knows in LA, I obliged. First night we went to the opening of “Voyeur”  it’s the old Granville on Santa Monica. All in all it was a good night, except for the Douche bags he was hanging out with. These dudes definitely try too hard to be cool and think name dropping to women is going to get them somewhere, “Nukka Pls!” It might impress a few but me, it’s a nische, nische, n no bueno! Couldn’t b a bigger turn off! The next night went much the same, still hanging out with the same DB’s and my boy, we went for din then ended up at Guys n Dolls. We all sat at some dude’s table. We were served the beverages of our choice and we continued on our night. Half way through our pretty uneventful evening, i had some random dude, that was with the dude that was buying the bottles, which were friends with the guys i had come with, come over to me and ask me to dance. I looked up at the guy in bewilderment, mainly cuz i had not a CLUE of who this DB was, and said “No, I don’t feel like dancing.” and then turned my back to him, flipping my hair over my shoulder hopefully just to whip him in his face. He grabbed my hand and said the ultimate of ultimate to me ” Get up and Dance, or I’ll have you kicked out!” I naturally thought he was being facetious because who would really say something like that to a woman? well…he wasn’t. When i rejected his request he went over and got the security guard to come and kick me and my other beautiful gf out for not obeying his request! WTF? What kind of man does that? case in point. NO MAN, ONLY DB’s DO THAT. MEN RESPECT AND LOVE WOMAN!

I, being a woman and completely insulted at this point, looked to my guyfriend for some help to diffuse this situation and he looked at me and said this…” Just get up then!”

HuH? Really? Seriously? You got to be kidding me? I Don’t think so, Homie don’t play that! I did NOTHING WRONG! So i did what any woman of my caliber and class would do…I told him to “GO N FUCK HIMSELF.” Hey, I can’t control how someone handles a situation that arises, but what i can do is stand up for myself and  I can recognize a fellow DB. Was it that my friend had been hanging so much with these DBagz that it finally rubbed off? Or was it he was always a DB and i just never saw it until that very moment? Probably a lil’ of both i think. I finally told him he had “NO BACKBONE”, and that “A MAN” (case in point) would have diffused the situation in a timely manor and we could’ve continued on our evening. On top of everything even he didn’t know who that DB was and still allowed him to treat me n my gf that way. So all in all I’m done with our friendship, any other of my friends “who are MEN” would’ve gracefully handled the situation differently!

And thus spawned this conversation, WHERE HAVE ALL THE COWBOYS GONE? WHERE ARE ALL THE MEN? Maybe it’s because, some women have let their criteria slide and have let boys (not Men) get away with stupid shit because their desparate and think they can’t do any better? or it’s this whole woman lib thing that has f’d us up and men no longer know there place because the lines have been so blurred and woman have had to learn to become independent in order to take care of themselves? I’m not sure what the cause is, the only thing I know is that I NEED A MAN!!! and I had one, it didn’t work out but I’m beginning to think he was the last one Earth that one Unicorn that’s run off into the sunset and if you’re reading this MR. LEO, you are n always will be the ISH! Don’t let anyone tell you different! So now all the other men after him have big shoes to fill, i’m comparing all to him. The bar is set high so if you’re not not ur A Game, don’t bother trying to play!

By MISS ROQ