I’m seriously loving these guys and particulary Charles Kelley…yummy!

If you’re into country, check out Lady Antebellum….

Hey ROQ,
in response to your post on facebook, I was just having this conversation two weeks ago with my best friend, Sharyn. I was saying how I miss being someone else’s “one and only” and how it seems to have gotten so much more difficult to find someone you can begin to connect with on that level.

Mostly, I think (and I could be wrong) that people just aren’t honest with themselves about who they really are at their core and want they want and need in life. For example, if you know you’re a free spirit and won’t be satisfied in a long term monogamous relationship, then don’t get involved with someone who’s looking for exactly that. On the other hand, if you’re a person looking for security and stability in a relationship, then you shouldn’t invest your time and efforts into someone who has no interest in being “tied down.”

It’s up to us to sit down and have a real “heart to heart” with ourselves to define what we value and need to keep us independently happy before we venture out to look for what we’d like to find in someone else. Speaking from personal experience, it’s taken me this long to come to these realizations. I spent 5 years with someone who I wanted to marry and have children with, who told me from day one that this was not what she had planned for her future. We are still good friends to this day but what I learned is that you can’t alter a person’s perceived destiny in life. Instead, no matter how much you like or what them to be the “one”, you have to let them pass on by in order to recognize the person who’s traveling on the same path next to you that never noticed before.

One of the biggest things I’ve had to learn is patience. I’ve always said, “you have to be a man in your own life first, before you can even think about being a man in someone else’s.” It takes self-control and self-awareness to hold back from getting involved in a relationship when you know you aren’t ready yet, even when you’re pretty close. Each of us has a two sets of standards for what we look for in someone else; that which we “want” and that which we “cannot be without.” You have to come to the table with the characteristics essential to that specific woman’s happiness already ingrained in who you are, and NOT offer her promises about the “man” you will one day become.

It’s not easy to admit to your shortcomings and to be completely honest about who you are which is why I think most people avoid it. It’s scary to be transparent when you’re hoping to impress someone new, but what I tell people is “the farther away you get from revealing your “true self”, the less there is of “the real you” for a person to know and love.”

I wrote this with the intention of letting you know how I see you. I see you as a woman who has had the “heart to heart” with herself, who is very comfortable in her own skin, and honest about her needs and who she is. I think it’s unfortunate that you haven’t come across someone who is as upfront about themselves as you are. Not unfortunate for you but unfortunate for the unlucky bastard’s who were unable to recognize the value of a good woman, like yourself. From one friend to another, never reevaluate yourself when someone else is blind to the great qualities you possess because as “first impressions” go, you are “impressive” on many diverse levels.

Chris you’re a wise, wise man. Thank you for your kind words. You always know how to make me feel better when the chips are down and out. You’re the BEST!

I like boys, I can’t help it. One’s of legal age of course.

For the most part of my life I’ve ALWAYS dated younger.

Some good experiences and some well…not so good.

The few times I have dated older were good times, but still i prefer the young.

The younger one’s that know how to fuck!

The younger one’s that keep me guessing just enough…mmmm

I LIKE BOYS!